Before Forgetting, Learn to Remember: Revisiting Foundational Learning Failures in LVLM Unlearning Benchmarks

While Large Vision-Language Models (LVLMs) offer powerful capabilities, they pose privacy risks by unintentionally memorizing sensitive personal information. Current unlearning benchmarks attempt to mitigate this using fictitious identities but overlook a critical stage 1 failure: models fail to effectively memorize target information initially, rendering subsequent unlearning evaluations unreliable. Diagnosing under-memorization and the multi-hop curse as root causes, we introduce ReMem, a Reliable Multi-hop and Multi-image Memorization Benchmark. ReMem ensures robust foundational learning through principled data scaling, reasoning-aware QA pairs, and diverse visual contexts. Additionally, we propose a novel Exposure metric to quantify the depth of information erasure from the model's internal probability distribution. Extensive experiments demonstrate that ReMem provides a rigorous and trustworthy framework for diagnosing both learning and unlearning behaviors in LVLMs. The dataset is publicly available at https://huggingface.co/datasets/ herbwood27/Remem .